Nightmare

A few nights ago I had an awful dream that Dan decided that he didn't wanted to be married anymore.  It wasn't one of those dreams where he cheats on me and I wake up angry and can't speak to him for several hours, but in this dream he just wanted to go back to being a bachelor.  He sat me down and told me that he didn't love me anymore, but he would continue to be a good father to our kids.  In the dream, I just cried and cried.  Dan had told me he'd filed divorce papers already, but he'd keep living in the house for the next couple weeks until it was final and he could find a place of his own.  So every day I'd work really hard to keep the house clean and make dinners that he liked, hoping he'd change his mind.  Like a crazy desperate person.

It was such a relief to wake up and realize that it had all been a dream.  But I haven't been able to get it out of my head.  I hadn't felt that insecure since my single days of dating.  It's made me realize all over again just how lucky I am to have Dan.  He has never (dreams excluded) made me feel like he doesn't love me.  Even though we have a list of things we completely disagree about, I know that those things don't change how we feel about each other.  And if I hadn't had my heart broken in the past, I wouldn't have been able to refine the list of qualities I was looking for in a husband.  He's intelligent, helpful, protective, thoughtful, etc.  He's a better cook than I am, and he does the dishes and vacuums more often than I do.  When I'm stressed he always asks what he can do to help.  He loves the kids and doesn't call it 'baby-sitting' when he has them on his own.  He makes me feel attractive and tells me I'm a good mother.  He puts up with my neuroses, and he likes my family.  He's funny and thinks I'm funny, too.  He's a gentleman but not in a condescending way (his mom raised him right).  He's fun to hang out with and is truly my best friend.  It's a little too early for this to be a Father's Day tribute, but I need him to know how much I love him, and I'm not really good at telling him on a regular basis.  I'm much better at putting it on the Internet for a bunch of strangers to read.
 
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